What You Took Back Podcast

Skye Underhill discusses a transformative approach for women seeking lasting change, emphasizing honesty, structure, and accessibility over gimmicks. She shares her methodology rooted in genuine understanding and internal development.
Key Topics:
The pitfalls of temporary gimmicks in women's self-help
A structured, honest approach to lasting change
The importance of internal authenticity in personal development
Sound Bites:
"Women need to stop sitting in quiet despair."
"Gimmicks create temporary lifts, not lasting change."
"Our methodology comes from inside, not outside."
women's empowerment, lasting change, personal development, honest methodology, accessible strategies

Have you ever sat down for dinner with your partner, only to find that both of you are distracted, scrolling through your phones or lost in thought?
If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Many couples are experiencing a gradual drift in their connection amidst the chaos of daily life.
In this podcast, we will explore how we can reclaim what belongs to us—genuine intimacy and connection with our loved ones. We’ll discuss the reasons behind this disconnect and offer actionable steps to reverse this trend.

What if your perfect life feels empty inside?
This episode is for anyone who seems to have it all, yet still feels lost or unfulfilled.
Skye gets into the psychology of why this happens to so many of us — men and women — and why it has nothing to do with making bad choices. In fact, it happened because you made all the right ones.
 
She shares her own story of lying in the pitch black one night seventeen years ago, hearing nothing but her own heartbeat, and saying out loud for the first time — I can't do this anymore. I need to love myself more.
 
And what happened the very next day?
 
This episode covers:
— Why capable people disappear inside their own lives — The difference between a life that looks good and a life that actually feels like yours — Why your partner cannot be your entire emotional world and what to do about that — The moment you stop blaming everyone around you and start taking your life back — Practical ways to find yourself again without burning everything down.
 
This is not a self-help episode.
There are no five steps and no journal prompts.
This is just an honest conversation about what it actually feels like to lose yourself — and what it looks like to go back and get yourself again.
What You Took Back — with Skye Underhill.
No fluff. No performance. Just real.

Episode 7. Skye navigates life after 40, and how it’s easy to feel adrift in our friendships. We have our lifelong pals, sure, but what about those new connections that can spark joy and understanding? 
Here’s the thing: the gap where new friends should be can feel vast. It’s not because we’re broken or anti-social; it’s a structural issue. We grew up in a friendship model built on forced closeness through school or work. Now, as adults, that model has faded, leaving many of us feeling isolated. 
If you’ve struggled to make new friends, you’re not alone. Let’s talk about it! Embrace the idea that it’s okay to seek out friends who resonate with who you are today, not who you used to be. 

We all have moments when we lose our confidence, often without even realising it. It doesn’t happen all at once; it’s a gradual process where life’s demands overshadow our true selves.  
Confidence slips away like the tide, leaving us standing on unfamiliar ground, questioning who we are. It’s a feeling many women share, and today we dive deep into understanding and reclaiming that lost confidence.  
Let’s break down the truths about confidence:  - It’s not the absence of fear, but the choice to act anyway.  - It’s a muscle that needs regular training.  - It’s about being kind to yourself after setbacks.  
Remember, you are not defined by your doubts or past failures.  

Skye Underhill shares her powerful story of resilience, motherhood, and overcoming societal stigma. This episode explores themes of identity, shame, and the strength it takes to step into your truth, especially as a young mother facing judgment.
Skye examines the subtleties of labels, judgment, and understanding in human behaviour, highlighting the importance of empathy and recognising complexity beyond surface-level judgments.
*labels, judgment, empathy, human behaviour, understanding, complexity
key topics
The role of labels in simplifying human stories
The impact of judgment on empathy
Understanding complexity beyond surface labels

Have you ever stopped for a second—somewhere in the middle of doing everything for everyone—and thought, what am I actually doing all this for?
If that question has crossed your mind, you’re not alone.
In this episode, Skye talks about purpose—but not in the big, overwhelming, “find your life calling” kind of way. 
Skye discusses the small, real moments when you begin to come back to yourself. The part of you that’s been a little quiet under the weight of responsibility, routine, and everyone else’s needs.
This is a conversation about learning how to listen to yourself again. About noticing what you actually want, not just what’s expected of you. And understanding that purpose doesn’t have to be something huge—it can be as simple as carving out time that feels like yours again.
 When you start prioritising yourself, even in small ways, everything shifts.

You look like you’ve got it together.You show up. You deliver. You handle it.
But underneath it?There’s a quiet thought you don’t say out loud—“What if I don’t actually belong here?”
This episode dives into the silent weight of feeling like a fraud in rooms you’ve already earned your place in. Not the loud, obvious self-doubt… but the subtle, persistent fear that one day, someone’s going to “figure you out.”
We unpack:
Why high-capacity people feel this way the most
The hidden patterns keeping you stuck in self-doubt
And the shift that changes how you see yourself completely
Because this isn’t about you being unqualified.It’s about you not fully owning who you’ve become.
If you’ve ever questioned yourself while holding everything together—this one will hit harder than you expect.
Look at what you’ve built while carrying it all.

Most women are taught to be the "strong one"—the calm, capable, constant in chaos. But what happens when that strength becomes a mask, draining your energy and hiding your true needs? In this candid episode, Skye Underhill exposes the quiet toll of overfunctioning, revealing how the 'infrastructure' of emotional labour can quietly strip away your sense of self. You'll discover why the role of the reliable woman often costs her more than she realises—and how stepping back can actually empower you and your relationships.
Skye shares eye-opening insights on the patterns learned in childhood that keep us stuck in the 'strong' persona, and how that impacts our mental health and connections. Learn practical ways to reclaim your strength without sacrificing your authenticity, including small shifts like pausing before offering solutions and embracing vulnerability as a strength rather than a threat.
This episode breaks down the unspoken truth: strength isn't a mask you wear constantly; it's a choice that should come with boundaries, rest, and permission to be uncertain. Whether you're the caregiver, the saver, or the glue in your circle, you'll leave with clarity on how to stop serving others at your own expense—and start honoring your real needs.Perfect for women feeling exhausted but afraid to show weakness, this is your call to rewrite what strength means. If you're tired of performing and ready to rediscover the power of being truly yourself, tune in now—to take your strength back and find freedom in authenticity.

Welcome to episode 1, The Woman Who Never Drops the Ball.
# The Woman Who Never Drops the Ball: Understanding Strong Women and Their Hidden Struggles.
 Discover the emotional cost of being the reliable one. Learn how strong women can reclaim their identities and boundaries as they navigate life's challenges.
In today’s fast-paced world, many women find themselves labelled as the "reliable one"—the person everyone turns to when things go awry. This podcast explores the emotional labor that comes with this role, the unspoken expectations, and the journey to reclaiming one’s identity. Drawing insights from Skye Underhill’s powerful discussion, we delve into the challenges faced by capable women and offer paths to self-discovery and healing.